B.A.C.P. Registered Counsellor in Tonbridge, Kent

Self-Esteem Counselling

Self-esteem is how we see ourselves, positively, negatively or somewhere in between, it is how we feel and think about ourselves and usually has a great impact on how we live and also how we see others. There is no quick fix for improving our self-esteem it does require being honest with ourselves and a great deal of work and courage.

  • Symptoms of having low self-esteem include:
  • Fear of change
  • Over-whelming feelings of fear and inadequacy.
  • Negative thoughts
  • Feeling worthless
  • Feeling incompetent
  • Feeling unlovable
  • Destructive relationships
  • Distorted views of self and others.

People who have a healthy self-esteem are more able to be realistic about their goals, to take risks and learn from mistakes they make. Even when they do not meet some of their expectations they continue to be positive and to accept themselves. They are not reckless but take healthy risks and do not feel destroyed by failure, which is an inevitable part of life.

People with low-self-esteem can be fearful and taking risks can seem too frightening to contemplate. Failures and not meeting some of their expectations can leave them feeling destroyed and can also strengthen beliefs that risks are not worth taking, they can also compare themselves unfavourably with others. Self-esteem can be lowered by negative experiences and difficult relationships but this also must mean that it can become higher with support. Our self-esteem is constantly changing.